Monday, April 20, 2020

Don't ask a question for which you know the answer already



Last night -- the 30th-something day of shelter in place -- I watched Chavela -- the documentary of the great Chavela Vargas. What treat! Then, I found out, this morning, that Almodovar had a similar night, a few weeks ago, in is home in Madrid.


Cliche it might be, but the universe is small.

Chavela defies labels -- she is not, or was not, a lesbian -- she and her friends corroborate this. She does not fit our current categories of LGBTQ. She lived in a different cultural language, one in which "don't ask a question for which you know the answer already" was the social norm. She was out, a womanizer, a recurrent drinking buddy with the guys, a a bit homophobic, and a queer heroine for many in Latin American and Spain.


She once thought a boy how to use a gun to make him macho, less feminine. She wanted to make him masculine. She rejected labels and applied them, at the sametime -- unable to escape them.


Monday, September 9, 2019

Do We Want to Stop HIV?


Reflections of a Thirty-Year Veteran of the Fight Against HIV --
https://aumag.org/2019/09/09/do-we-want-to-stop-hiv/


Tuesday, August 20, 2019

FIFTY YEARS AFTER STONEWALL GAY MEN ARE QUEERING AGING

What aging and queer share: Shame. We shame the weak, unkempt and uncontrollable old self as we shame queers. Don’t run away from it, let’s embrace shame, yet again.

See my latest piece @ Discover Society

Sunday, December 3, 2017

Why Ageism Never Gets Old

Tad Friend's story in The New Yorker reminds us of the difficulties we have fighting against the stigma of old age and why, perhaps, we will never win this fight. "The prejudice is an ancient habit, but new forces—in Silicon Valley, Hollywood, and beyond—have restored its youthful vitality."

Friday, December 1, 2017

Why a Generation in Japan Is Facing a Lonely Death

Wednesday, June 28, 2017

Born Before Stonewall


Judith Hoch Wray (left) and Donna Prince have built a good life in Indianapolis, and persevere through financial and medical setbacks. Says Donna: “When I can’t see where the next point of light is, Judith says, ‘It’ll be OK. We’ll just take it a day at a time.’” Photo by Heather.


This month marks the 48th anniversary of the Stonewall Rebellion, a defining moment in the struggle for gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender equality. LGBTQ Americans still face isolation and discrimination. But we in the Baby Boom are also helping redefine what it means to grow older.

Barry Yeoman writes this excellent piece of journalism:
https://medium.com/@barryyeoman/born-before-stonewall-lgbtq-boomers-8d08b7cc5bd4